Advice for the parents

1. communicate whatS important to you.

If you want a "3-generation photo" of yourself with your child and your mom, ask the photographer to add it to the wedding day "must take" shot list. If you assume this photo will naturally happen, you will likely be disappointed. If something really matters to you, speak up.

2. Be candid about your contribution.

It's awkward for couples to ask the money question. Make it easier by telling them a number you are comfortable with, write the check, and let them determine how to spend it vs. offering to pay for the flowers or the bar. No matter the amount, the best gifts come with no strings attached.    

3. Love every idea for five minutes.

Couples often want your opinion during the wedding planning process. Share their excitement for 5 minutes before offering alternative ideas. It is more important to be kind than to be right.

4. Share important information with family.

If there are reserved ceremony seats or group photos for extended family, let them know. Empty seats in the front rows are really noticeable in photos, and few things are more annoying on the wedding day than having to search for family members when you'd rather be enjoying cocktail hour.

5. Be fully present.

You have always been your son or daughter's biggest advocate, supporter, protector, and ally. Let us be your trusted partner, providing information, guidance, and serving as a diplomatic mediator when needed. We’ll work as your ally behind the scenes, protecting your interests and supporting your vendors so they can exceed your expectations, and you can be fully present that day.